We all have reasons why we fail to reach what we want in life.

Maybe you have a goal or vision for your life?

But somehow you don't take the actions needed to get what you want?

People are different!

But there are 11 things that I found to be very common that holds us back from success.

So let's take a look at the lies we tell ourselves:

11 Lies We Tell Ourselves 

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(1) I Don't Have The Resources.

So you have an idea that might give you what you want in life.

But according to you it's impossible because you don't have the resources.

Maybe you don't have the money, the technology or whatever resource it might be.

The problem you have is not a lack of resources it's a lack of resourcefulness.

If this is really important to you then you will find a way to find whatever it is you need to get it done.

Don't have money? Then find a job and work your idea at night.

Don't have a computer? Then go to the library or do it on your phone.

Don't have internet? Go to a coffee shop and go online.

Don't have access to a gym? Then go for a run and do body weight exercises.

Do whatever it takes and become the most resourceful person you know.

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(2) It's Too Big A Risk.

One of the biggest risks people take in life is to not take risks at all.

They think if they play it safe they will just cruise through life and be successful.

The reality is that if you don't take risks you are making yourself vulnerable.

You are exposing yourself by making yourself dependent on other people and organizations.

To get to a point where you are financially independent and free you will need to take some risks.

There is no way around it. You will have put yourself in uncomfortable situations to go where you want to go.


(3)  I Don't Want To Spend Money On That .

This point links up with the previous point in the sense that people don't want risk by investing in themselves.

They see investing in themselves as a risk.

They think that if they buy a course or a book that this is somehow a risk.

They think that spending that money is a waste.

This comes from a pessimistic view of the world that people are out to get them.

They think online courses, books, and other resources are mostly scammers and bullshit artists wanting to take their money.

So they never take the step to invest in themselves to get ahead.

Personally, my own success would never have happened as fast as it did if it wasn't for the courses, books and other resources I invested in.

I took a risk and invested money and most of those turned out to be very valuable.

You don't need to reinvent the wheel there are people who have done it before.

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(4) I Don't Know How To Do It.

If you don't know how to do it then learn.

Like I mentioned in the previous point find the resources to make things happen.

Elon Musk taught himself rocket science by reading books.

Many other entrepreneurs are also self-educated.

Most things you want to learn is somewhere in a book.

Most things you want to learn fast is condensed somewhere in a video course.

We have the knowledge today to learn anything at a very low cost or for free.

In today's world where knowledge is in abundance, we have no excuses.

It's up to us to learn and find a way.


(5) I Can't Compete With Them.

A lot of guys look at others and think they can't compete with those guys.

Well, this is you defeating yourself before you even start.

Why can't you become great?

You have something great inside you but you need to step up and develop it.

Even if you have the greatest natural talent in the world you need to use it.

But here is the thing, even if you don't have the most natural talent in the world you can still learn and outwork your competition.

Because let me tell you a little secret.

99% of the people will never take action on their ideas.

This means most of your potential competition is already out of the game.

So step up, you don't have any excuses.

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(6) What Will People Say.

What will your neighbours say?

What will your friend say?

What will the people around you say?

The answer is very simple.

It doesn't matter.

Stop giving so many fucks and do whatever it takes.

People will always talk.

Guess what?

If you do become successful they will talk even more.

Get over it, it doesn't matter.

The only opinion that matter is the opinion you have of yourself.

(7) My Ideas Are Too Big.

A lot of people lack self-confidence so they think their ideas are too big.

They think there is no way that this will work.

They think that there is no way that “A person like Me” can succeed.

If this is you then you need to start working on building your self-confidence.

Start by focusing on making your self talk more positive.

More importantly, start having faith that you will do this thing.

Whatever it is you are working on start believing that it's going to happen.

Then start cultivating this belief into something powerful and unstoppable.

Fake it till you make it.

The human mind can be tricked into believing its real even before its happening.

Start tricking your own mind into believing something is already happening. This will help you build momentum and turn it into reality.

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(8) Its Too Late To Get In The Game.

This is one of the most common excuses out there.”I'm too late”.

This is bullshit. Yes, of course, it's best to be first in any market.

But you can still find many opportunities in most industries.

Look at books as an example.

There are millions of books out there selling and making a lot of money.

It's not like I'm saying “I'm too late there are already millions of books out there”.

No, I am very aware that I can provide something unique to a market that nobody else can.

You can do the same. You can put a unique spin on something and become successful within most markets.

But you have to step up and go for it.

Elon Musk started an electric car company when everyone said you can't start a car company the market won't allow it.

When Amazon started they said there are enough bookstores already.

Turns out they were wrong.

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(9) I Might Fail.

Yes, you might fail. Do you really think this is a surprise?

This is why being successful is so awesome.

Because everyone that steps out there into the arena knows that their ideas might die in the marketplace.

This is a reality that makes success very sweet when you come out on the other side and win.

This is the FREE world we live in.

We compete with each other and we risk.

We put our hearts into something and we outwork everyone with our relentless attitude to win.

But we always know that we could lose.

But we won't have it any other way.

We want to play this game.

We want to be out there and be challenged.

This is what life is all about. It's about earning everything we have.

It's about knowing that you never want anything handed to you.

A big part of this life is knowing you might fail.

You know that no success is possible without this reality.

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(10) I Don't Have The Time For It Right Now.

Like mentioned before 99% of people will never play this game of success.

They will never step in this arena and put themselves out there for the world to judge.

The same goes for people when it comes to short term gratification.

Short term gratification is when people choose the short term pleasure and reject long term positive results.

For example, a person would rather eat junk and not exercise. That way they feel the short term pleasure of the great tasting burger and the warm bed they sleep in.

They will choose this ahead of the long-term results of healthy eating and exercise.

With the exercise and healthy diet it might not feel great in the moment but your long-term pleasure of being in great shape will outweigh the short term by a long-shot.

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(11) I Tried Everything It Doesn't Work.

Most people fail once or twice and give up.

They think those defeats define them.

So they give up and they can then tell people “I tried everything but it didn't work”.

Really? Did you try everything?

OK, name the last 1000 things you tried.

Or better yet just name the last 50 things you tried?

In today's environment people give up so easily that its a lot easier to be successful because most people just quit.

People have become so mentally weak that they just throw in the towel with the first sign of resistance.

So let's say you failed in the past.

So what?

I have failed many times in things I have tried.

I just try again and again and make it happen. I force it into reality.

Many other successful people have done it.

They failed over and over again until they make it.

It a choice.

What is your choice going to be?