Have you ever noticed how some people seem like they were born for greatness?
Born to be a king.
You take one look at them and you can see they know exactly why they are here.
They know they are on this planet for a reason.
They know what their mission is.
They know what their purpose is.
They know what they have to do.
And by having a clear mission they create certainty in their life.
A clear path.
They have no doubt or uncertainty.
The Contrast
This is in stark contrast with the majority of men who live on this planet.
Most men don't know what their purpose is.
They have no direction and no mission.
And you can see it in the way they carry themselves.
These men have zero certainty about their lives.
The majority of men will wonder this planet without ever knowing their purpose or trying to figure it out.
They feel empty but dont know why.
“Almost everything you do, you do because you are afraid to die. And yet dying is exactly what you are doing, from the moment you are born. Two hours of absorption in a good Super Bowl telecast may distract you temporarily, but the fact remains. You were born as a sacrifice. And you can either participate in the sacrifice, dissolving in the giving of your gift, or you can resist it, which is your suffering.”
― David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
Looking For Meaning Outside Yourself.
These men look for their meaning in other people.
Maybe they try to find meaning in their families.
Maybe their meaning is found in a girlfriend or wife.
They distract themselves in a job they hate.
They forget reality by disappearing in social media or tv.
But at the end of the night when the lights go off they feel the emptiness coming for them.
That lonely feeling.
They try to avoid this feeling by going to alcohol or drugs.
This is why anti-depression use is sky high and the divorce rate is 50%.
They hide from the truth.
Do You Feel Insignificant?
Maybe you feel insignificant.
After all, there are millions of people on this planet.
And you think you are insignificant in this ocean of people.
Maybe you tried to change but someone killed your dream?
Maybe they told you to be “realistic”.
They told you that you cant be a king.
Not you.
And you believed them.
I'm here to tell you some good news.
You can find your destiny.
But it's not going to look for you.
You have to find it.
You have to create it.
It will be a process.
It won't just be one moment.
But to start this process you need to commit to going after this dream.
This commitment must be to yourself.
Maybe you feel empty?
Maybe feel like you are just drifting through life?
Maybe you feel like you are lost?
Maybe you feel like the river of life is taking you downstream and you cant get out of the water?
Maybe you are in a dark corner?
Only you know the answer.
But you have to be honest with yourself.
Are you going to allow life to punch you in the face repeatedly without moving?
Or are you going to stop, make a stand and say “Enough!”
“This changes now!”
You Can Spot Them.
It's very easy to spot a man who has no purpose.
His body language will tell you in one glance that his life is empty.
His eyes will tell you he is on his way out.
Or he will tell you he is just waiting for it all to pass as soon as possible.
If you want to see it yourself then go for a walk in your city.
You will see it in the eyes of the obese people in the doughnut isle taking the last box of doughnuts.
You will see it in the guy's eyes who drinks himself to sleep every night after work.
You will see it in the receptionist's eyes ignoring the phone ringing while playing on social media.
You will see it in the eyes of the families who dont talk to each other but rather watch TV.
You will see it in the eyes of your coworker who walks with bad body language looking at his watch constantly to see when the day is over.
You will see it everywhere…
“Every man knows that his highest purpose in life cannot be reduced to any particular relationship. If a man prioritizes his relationship over his highest purpose, he weakens himself, disserves the universe, and cheats his woman of an authentic man who can offer his full, undivided presence.”
― David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
Whatever You Do Dont Look For Your Purpose in Your Girlfriend Or Wife.
Many men miss their purpose by hiding behind their relationship but dont understand why his partner hates him.
If you make your relationship a priority over your purpose then you will invite weakness and conflict into your life.
Women lose respect for a man who finds his meaning in life in her.
So don't do it.
Your number one priority has to be your purpose.
Your mission.
No compromises.
Forget about what other people are doing or what other people think.
That is none of your business.
“If you don’t know your purpose, discover it, now.The core of your life is your purpose. Everything in your life, from your diet to your career, must be aligned with your purpose if you are to act with coherence and integrity in the world. If you know your purpose, your deepest desire, then the secret of success is to discipline your life so that you support your deepest purpose and minimize distractions and detours.”
― David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
Forget About Half Measures Or Work-Life Balance.
I mentioned before on this blog that half measures are for cowards.
Go all-in on your mission.
Give it everything you have.
The whole idea of “taking time off” or “being balanced” was created by uninspired, unmotivated, lazy people who dont have a purpose.
Dont fall for that trap.
Look at the most successful people on the planet.
They are all in on their purpose.
They know that if they go all-in on their mission they will create the greatest good for the planet.
“Without a deep sense of purpose to direct your daily life, you will be directed by externals-financial need, your children’s needs, your lover’s needs-and you will begin to blame them for your lack of fulfillment. You will feel trapped in obligations, and your resentments will show. You will hold back in your relationships with your lover and family, not really wanting to be there, unsure what else to do, mired in ambiguity, guilt, and anger. Your actions will lack integrity and follow-through. Your feminine lover won’t be able to trust you in everyday life or open to you sexually.”
― David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
So Ask Yourself: Why Not You?
Why can't you find your destiny and make a dent in the universe?
Don't ever think it's too late.
Don't let someone tell you you can't do something because you are too young or too old.
You can do whatever you want to do.
All you have to do is to make a choice.
Humans have the ability to keep on learning new things until they are very old.
But again you have to choose to do so and you have to do the work.
As I mentioned earlier.
Make a choice and start walking in a different direction tomorrow.
And what if you already have your purpose?
Well, refine it, make it better.
Evolve, go to the next level.
You are capable of incredible things if you embrace your personal power.
If you decide to make a pact with yourself and embrace self-discipline then anything is possible.
Don't let your past hold you back.
We all have sad stories.
I know I do, but that is in my past.
You can use that as motivation.
Let the pain drive you in a different and better direction.
“Your mission is your priority. Unless you know your mission and have aligned your life to it, your core will feel empty. Your presence in the world will be weakened, as will your presence with your intimate partner. The next time you notice yourself “giving in” to your woman, postponing your mission and denying your true purpose in order to spend time with her, stop. Tell your woman that you love her, but you cannot deny your heart’s purpose. Tell her that you will spend 30 minutes (or some specific time) with her in absolute attention and total presence, but then you must return to carry on your mission. Your”
― David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
How To Live Life On Purpose If You Don't Know Your Purpose?
You need to figure it out.
You might not see it clearly right now.
But you will instinctively feel a pull in a certain direction.
Go with that and see what the universe shows you and eventually you will find it.
It might take a few tries but eventually, you will get there.
And if you still feel stuck just start with something.
Start with something obvious you can see right now.
Start with your fitness, your mind, your diet, your education(reading).
Just start moving.
Take action.
Because know this: If you dont take action nothing will change.
Nothing!
Don't Wait For Something To Appear, Take Action Now.
If you are going to wait then you will wait forever.
Start taking action now.
It could be as simple as removing yourself from a bad environment.
It could be going for a run.
It could be throwing out that junk food in the fridge.
It could be reading that book.
It could be starting a blog.
It could be starting your online business.
It could be starting a Youtube channel.
It could be going to Jiu-Jitsu class.
It could be enrolling in medical school.
It could be as simple as getting up from the sofa right now and cleaning your room or apartment.
It's just taking that first step and then another.
If you do that you will build momentum and start moving closer to your mission.
Closer to your purpose.
Closer to your destiny.
Until next time my friends.
