The art of seduction has certain fundamentals that will never change but must be adapted and calibrated.

In this article, we will look at the fundamentals of seduction and the foundation of how to seduce a woman.

The reality is that the art of seduction starts before you meet a woman and before you open your mouth.

Who you are as a man should be part of your seduction process, and this holistic approach to seduction is what this article is all about.

The reality is that you need to know the process of seduction with dating and relationships.

Once you have internalized this knowledge, it will become part of who you are.

The men who have no knowledge of how to seduce a woman are just rolling the dice, hoping for the best.

If you look at modern divorce statistics and the large number of men who struggle with women and dating, then it becomes clear that a lack of knowledge is a big reason why most men struggle.

Another critical thing to keep in mind is that I can give you all the knowledge in the world, but if you dont take action nothing will change.

The Art Of Seduction: How To Seduce A Woman

How To Seduce A Woman With Self Confidence

Self Confidence is key to seducing a woman, this might sound like a cliche, but it's one for a reason.

Self-confidence is probably the most important thing when it comes to attracting women.

If you dont believe in yourself, then why should she trust you or feel safe with you?

If you are struggling with self-confidence, then you need to start doing the work to improve it.

Unfortunetly there are no shortcuts when it comes to confidence.

But the key to confidence is starting with your self-talk.

You need to become conscious of your self-talk and the way you perceive yourself to be.

You first need to start loving yourself and then other people will love you.

Ask yourself this question: “How do I see myself?”

Think about this important question and be honest about the answer.

You will find a lot out about yourself if you honestly answer this question.

If you don't like the answer, then you need to start building a version of yourself that you love.

Learn from your past mistakes, and then forgive yourself.

You need to let go of the big bag of bricks you carry on your back, this bag of bricks is also known as your past.

You can't change your past, but you can change your future.

So start building a version of yourself that you are proud to look at.

Remember, your subconscious mind is a very fertile ground.

If you have been struggling with self-confidence then it means you have allowed your mind to be influenced by negative influences that are not in your best interest.

Another thing you can do to start building confidence is to get in the gym and start lifting weights.

When you start building your physical strength and transforming how you look at yourself, it will automatically begin to build confidence.

Of course, there is more to this topic, but self-talk and lifting weights are two things you can start doing right now.

If you want to go deeper into the topic of how to build a powerful mindset then go check out my book Alpha Mindset where I tell you exactly how to build confidence by taking control of all areas of life.

You Must Be Focused On Your Purpose

Your mission or purpose must be number one.

If you make women your main focus in life, then you have already lost.

There are men who spend days, weeks, months, and even years chasing women.

The reality is that this is low-value behavior.

Firstly you are wasting hours that you could have used to build your empire.

Secondly, men who only focus on women are not attractive to high-value women.

Understand that women live a large part of their lives in their imagination, and in order for them to fall in love with you there needs to be a story about you in their imagination.

Your mission or purpose that you spend a lot of time on will mean that you spend less time with her.

This time away from her will create uncertainty and spark her imagination.

If you spend all your time with her then she can't fall in love with you because you are not sparking her imagination.

So stay on your mission, and this includes your hobbies and even time with friends.

You need a life that is yours that she can fantasize over.

She needs uncertainty to spike her emotions, and if your main focus is on her and not on your mission, all the mystery disappears.

Therefore, live your life, and yes, have fun with women, but it can not be your main focus.

How To Seduce Women With Your Looks

A lot of people say, “looks don't matter,” but this is a lie.

It does matter, in fact, it matters a lot.

If you doubt the importance of looks, let me introduce you to the “halo effect.”

The halo effect is a psychological phenomenon that happens when our first impression of a person influences our overall perception of them.

This means that a tiny detail – such as being overweight – can influence the way we think and feel about them.

Understanding what the halo effect is and how it works can go a long way in improving your success with women and dating

The halo effect can sometimes cause us to jump to conclusions quickly.

Now you have two choices:

1. You can cry about how unfair it is and give up on meeting a lot of beautiful high-value women.

2. Or you can embrace this reality and use it to your advantage. As they say, knowledge is power.

Now,I'm not saying you need to look like a movie star, but you need to take control of the fundamentals of your looks, and you need to develop them as best you can.

In other words, you need to create the best version of yourself.

There are a lot of men with average natural looks that outperform “naturally good looking” guys with women and dating.

They outperform these guys because guys with natural good looks tend to get lazy and not work on themselves, whereas the guys who are average and below average tend to do a lot more work and as result have more consistent success.

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I have previously written extensively about the importance of smell and how it influences women both consciously and unconciously.

Studies on a women’s sense of smell have shown a distinct difference compared to men, with women having a greater ability to detect and identify odors.

This difference is due to the evolutionary advantages women gain from having a better sense of smell.

For example, women use their enhanced sense of smell to unconciously identify the best male partner for potentially starting a family.

Scents play a significant role in women’s choice of mate and her sexual desire.

Therefore women tend to prefer men whose immune system genes will increase the likelihood that their children will survive.

With this unconscious ability to identify males that are genetically dissimilar, women can create healthy offspring better than if females were attracted only based on visual cues.

Therefore be very cautious about dating a woman that is on birth control since it influences her sense of smell. Therefore it could influence your relationship once she goes off it.

So make sure you smell good by being fresh and clean. Use organic soap and deodorant.

Grondyke soap company has created an organic deodorant that only uses natural ingredients and does not damage your Endocrine system like normal deodorants.

The most crucial part of smelling good is living a healthy lifestyle.

If you want to use cologne use an expensive exclusive brand, but use it sparingly.

Dont drench yourself with cologne; it must be a background smell.

The real attraction is sparked by your natural body odor that is created by your lifestyle and pheromones.


Your style is important, so make yours stand out in a subtle way.

The key is to dress in a masculine way.

Go get simple, but stylish clothes that fit your body shape and that make you stand out from mediocre men.

The key to this is that the clothes fit well, so you need to get in shape.

Body language

Bad posture can be a dealbreaker.

Body language has a powerful effect on social dynamics, especially in the world of dating and relationships.

Good body language is very important for men when trying to spark attraction.

Strong body language shows self-confidence and that you're open to communication.

Body language can communicate even more emotions than our words do.

In fact, psychologists say that about 80% of communication is nonverbal.

So having good body language skills is very important not just for dating but for life in general.

So understanding body language and using it effectively during social interactions with women can make all the difference.

So you need to work on how you walk, stand, and sit.

You need to stand up straight and take up space.

And when you sit down don't lean into her with bad posture like a puppy dog, again when you sit you still want your spine straight.

You can relax and lean back, spread your legs and take up the space where you sit.

If you don't know what you are doing with your body go and look at Daniel Craig in the James Bond Movies, he has great posture and body language.

This is an easy way to learn body language from a master.

When it comes to the art of seduction body language is key.

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How To Seduce A Woman With Your Approach

In the art of seduction the approach is what breaks most men.

The reason for this is a lack of confidence but as we mentioned earlier in this article it's something you can work on and improve.

I mentioned earlier that you must work on your self-talk and lift weights.

But something else you can do to build confidence even further is to go out and approach women without the fear of failure.

How do you do it?

Tell yourself rejection is part of the process and is making you stronger.

The reality is that it is making you stronger.

Because if you struggle with confidence then throwing yourself into the thing your fear most about seduction will help you overcome it very fast.

Let me tell you another secret, women want to be approached, this is especially true if they noticed you and think you are attractive.

So dont fear approaching women, embrace it.

One important thing to remember when approaching women is to not approach all women, that is just stupid.

Only approach women you find very attractive. Dont be one of those guys who approach every woman, that's a waste of your time.

The last thing to remember is that you will be rejected by some women, and that is fine.

The reality is that some women will not be into you. Not all women can find you attractive, that is impossible.

As soon as you figure out there is no interest from her, just politely say, “It was nice to meet you, I have to meet my friends”.

Don't hang around and torture yourself.

Once you improve your social intelligence and you can read body language better, then only approach women that show interest from the start.

But how do you know a woman is interested in you?


Look for the following body language:

  • She keeps on smiling in your direction
  • She holds eye contact
  • She moves closer to you

Remember, initial attraction is based on your physical appearance.

Therefore as I mentioned earlier, get in shape, dress well and work on your body language.

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Game And The Art Of Seduction

There are 2 schools of Game when it comes to approaching women.

There is a direct and indirect game.

I have previously written about Indirect Game. Indirect Game (old school game) is something I recommend to guys who are socially struggling and just starting to learn social dynamics.

But if you are more advanced and very self-confident then Direct Game is very effective.

That being said,I know many experienced successful guys who prefer Indirect Game, but I also know very successful men who prefer Direct Game.

So you need to experiment and see which type of Game works best for you.

Direct Game is exactly what it sounds like. You come in with a Direct approach and tell her why you are talking with her.

With Direct Game you have enough confidence to start a conversation with just a “Hi” and then talk about anything.

And with Indirect Game you come with a script that is designed to build comfort between the two of you.Therefore you must build your conversational skills.

So see what works for you and go for it.

Whatever form of dating Game you choose, it all comes back to your confidence.

So make eye contact, smile, and don't be afraid to lose her because then you will lose her.

Most importantly, have fun.

The key to the conversation is that you should be leading it and letting her do most of the talking.

Women love to talk about themselves, so become good with social dynamics and learn how to lead a conversation effortlessly.

If you are talking to a girl and you feel the conversation is fading away , get her number and walk away.Don't try any physical contact if she is not in a sexual mood.

Dont force things, let her remember you for a nice conversation, not an awkward moment. So get her number or get her Instagram, and leave.

How To Seduce Women With Instagram Dating

As dating apps become increasingly popular, Instagram has emerged as the new big dating tool.

Instagram is technically not a dating app, but it can most definitely be used as one.It's an easy way for seducing women.

However, it's only a dating app for those men that know what they are doing.

Most men have no idea what they are doing when it comes to using Instagram as an effective dating tool.

It's helpful for men since it puts attractive women in front of them and is a direct way to communicate with them.

The best part of it is that millions of women use Instagram, more than most dating apps on the market.

For example, 75.8% of all Tinder users are men, and only 24.2% are women.

Compare that to Instagram where 51.6% of all Instagram users are men, and 48.4% are women.

So it's a no-brainer, Instagram is a better place to be.

With Instagram, you can make an impression on women that gets their imagination running, and that is the key to her attraction.

A big part of understanding female psychology is to realise the massive influence of her imagination.

You just post a picture once a week doing something interesting and that will start her imagination rolling.

A lot of men want to learn how to seduce a girl, but they dont realize that seduction in the modern world start and continue without you doing a thing and that is where Instagram comes into the game.

Remember, your opinion about Instagram doesn't matter.

It is what it is, so make the best of it.

Use it as a tool that will do a lot of the leg work for you without you doing much in the real world.

Dating on Instagram is here to stay, so start using it to your advantage.

So it's not about what you think about Instagram, but what she thinks about your Instagram.

Like I said before,all you have to do is post a picture once a week where you are doing something interesting.

Take a picture where you are at a cool restaurant, bar, club, coffee shop, Jiujitsu training, the gym, etc.

Just show your lifestyle and let her imagine being part of it.

The key is to look powerful, mysterious, and masculine.

The art of seduction on Instagram is here to stay.


So this article was the basics of how to seduce a woman.

There is of course a lot more to seduction but the basics in this article should be enough for you to go out there and start taking action.

Until next time.