A lot of men wonder about how to be an alpha male.
Or they ask, “What is an alpha male?”
There are a lot of opinions about what Alpha male means.
But those opinions are all based purely on an outdated view of what it means to be an alpha male.
Most of those opinions are based only on the chest-beating gorilla view of being an alpha.
And yes some of those aspects are important, but in a modern context, the alpha is more than that.
This article is an abstract view of how I see the modern alpha and what it takes to be one.
One of the problems with the outdated view of alpha is that many traditionally viewed Alphas are only alpha in some aspects of life.
For example, you might see a powerful guy in the gym who looks intimidating but as soon as he is around a woman he becomes a little puppy who takes orders.Therefore they are beta males in their relationships.
Or when it comes to his personal and professional lives, it isn't very impressive.
The mainstream view of the Alpha is outdated.
My view of the Alpha, and the one I'm going to discuss in this article, is balanced, holistic, and an ideal of what a modern Alpha male is.
It's an abstract idea compared to the old, narrow, outdated idea of an Alpha male.
What Is An Alpha Male? – How To Be An Alpha Male
I already mentioned that the outdated view of the alpha is being left behind.
The world has changed, and you adapt, or you get left behind.
When I'm talking about being an Alpha, I'm talking about the idea of what it means to be a high-value male.
All the qualities of this high-value male holistically make him an Alpha.
So let's look more closely at how to be an alpha male.
Alpha Male Traits = Alpha Mindset
There are a few traits that I talk about in my book Alpha Mindset that forms this idea of what a Modern Alpha Male is.
The foundation of it is that being Alpha Male is a Mindset.
This Alpha Male Mindset is based on certain fundamentals.
Let's start with the first one:
Winning In Life Is A Conscious Choice
A lot of men in this world who are seen as “Alpha Males” are losers.
They might be tough, but their lives are mediocre and chaotic.
They have problems in their relationships, and a lot of times, they are controlled by their women.
They don't achieve anything great, they don't build wealth, and they don't impact their community.
They are not natural leaders.
Their names are not remembered.
And make no mistake, it's a decision, you have to make a decision that you will not take no for an answer, you will not stand back and wait for life to come at you.
You will attack and be aggressive.
But more importantly than that, you will be smart about it.
You will not be a mindless drone. You will learn strategy, you will learn tactics, you will learn mental and physical preparation.
Then you will execute consistently and mold reality according to your will.
Because you will is the thing that will distinguish you from the average man.
That hunger inside you pushes you above and beyond what anyone expects of you.
That inner drive pushes you to do the work when no one is watching.
This is the way of Alpha Men.
Mind Transformation Is A Realty For Alpha Males
The second part of becoming an Alpha male is taking control of your mind.
The mind is the most powerful tool you have.
You must learn how to develop the mind and then transform it.
If you are reading these words, then you already know you have room for improvement.
Some of you might be in a postion in life where your back is against the wall, and you need to make some big moves.
Well, you are in the right place, you will find the structure and plan to do that on this website.
First, you must realize we live in a time where the human mind is under constant attack from outside forces trying to influence us.
The human mind is the most powerful goal-seeking machine in the known universe.
However, it's also a very fertile soil for ideas to be inserted.
The ideas come in different types of attacks.
Some are from big companies, governments, schools, universities, and even “friends.”
These influences could be in person or through social media, TV, music, or other online sources.
The bottom line is that the human mind is much more open to planting seeds than most people realise.
Every day people are being unconsciously brainwashed.
Most people are unaware of the immense power of their minds and how the mind can be used against them.
However, once you study and understand the human mind, then it can be transformed into a very powerful weapon under your control.
Yes, it will take work and discipline to get to this point, but it can be done.
Once you master your mind and get control over it, you become a very powerful man with unlimited potential.
This is the foundation of the Alpha Male.
Mind power that is above the average man.
Build your self esteem and self confidence to high levels and you will be unstoppable.
Steven Pressfield coined the term “The Resistance”, which speaks to the obstacles and negative internal forces that try to prevent people from achieving their goals.
“The Resistance” can come in many forms, such as the fear of failure or the temptation to procrastinate.
These internal roadblocks will try and push you to just “take a break”.
Therefore you must always remain vigilant against the natural inclination to stay within your comfort zone.
Whether we recognize it or not, “The Resistance” is something everyone struggles with, but the key is learning how to fight against it and how to overcome it so you can go on to win.
Being an Alpha Male is not just about fighting external battles but also fighting internal battles against your own mind, also known as “The Resistance.”
Stop Asking For Permission
Now it's time to move on to the next important part of becoming a modern Alpha Male.
It's a mind shift away from being a follower.
You must change the status quo.
You must make a mind shift and stop asking for permission.
Beta males ask for permission.
Stop looking around you and look at what most people on planet earth are doing and start thinking for yourself.
Switch off that part of your mind that has the instinct to go and ask for permission before you take action in life.
It's time to become a leader of men.
It's time to become the man that people can depend on, someone that people respect.
A man that makes his own decisions.
There is nothing wrong with surrounding yourself with other Alpha Males that is also on a mission to become the best possible version of themselves.
But before you form alliances and teams, you must first walk alone.
You must have the self awareness to do what is required to go the next level in life.
This is a right of passage of the Alpha Male.
Who Dares Wins
Most people in the world play it safe.
They think a life of no risk will give them what they want.
They think that by playing from a position of safety that their dreams will come true.
But they never do, and these people don't understand why.
Here is the reality:
Nothing great in life in any arena has been achieved without risk.
You must be willing to take calculated risks.
You can't win without the risk of losing.
I have mentioned this many times before, but you must follow the advice of the SAS(Special Air Sevice) whose motto is “Who Dares Wins”.
If you do not dare in life, you will keep on losing.
In my own life, nothing changed before I stopped dabbling with life.
I was a dabbler.
I would sit next to the stream of life and watch how the water goes past.
I would sometimes put my foot in the water.
But then the water would feel too cold, so I would take it out and return to safety.
It wasn't until I got to a point. in life when my back was against the wall that I decided to jump into the stream and emerged myself in the cold water.
Yes, the water was freezing, but it awakened me, and suddenly I was playing this game of life on a whole different level.
I wasn't a part of the cowed anymore, I was a player.
More than that, I was playing to win.
I was taking risks, not stupid risks, but calculated risks.
I was willing to lose. I didnt want to lose, but I was willing to take some losses to win in the end.
I realized “Who Dares Wins” is the secret to getting whatever you want.
I also realize that these words are a big part of the Mindset of the Alpha.
Alpha Males risk, they lead and know that whatever they want in life will demand sacrifice and the possibility of losing.
You can't win without the possibility of losing.
So jump into the water and become comfortable in the cold water of life.
Remember dabbling in life will take you nowhere, but committing to playing the game of life at a high level will lead to victory.
Success is something we all want to achieve, but it doesn't come without thinking big.
Always playing it safe will not give you the results you desire.
Making daring decisions that challenge yourself and require thinking outside the box is what will take you there.
Thinking big can also bring about new opportunities and experiences, as well as resources or contacts.
Trying something different can often yield great results that would not have been achievable by just playing it safe.
Live By The Code Of The Warrior
In a modern world where men live in a state of mediocrity and chaos is easy to look around and ask yourself, “What the fuck happened?”
It's easy to see the negatives everywhere.
But there is a way for us to rise above it all and dominate.
We do this in a simple and powerful way.
We go back to the old ways.
The way of the warrior.
For Alpha men being a warrior is a way of life.
It's a philosophy that is ingrained in the deepest part of your blood as a man.
Your inner warrior is there, all you have to do is tap into it.
It will give you clarity, discipline, focus, determination, and courage.
It's a way of walking through the world that will give you one clear conclusion:
When you accept the way of the warrior, and you find yourself in a world of chaos and a world of men with no code, you realize that you don't need to be part of that problem.
You know this because you know you live in a world beyond this world.
Therefore the way of the Alpha male is a code of ethics that you live by.
This includes mentally and physically preparing your body and mind for whatever conflict might come your way.
Living this way will bring inner strength and a sense of purpose.
The Alpha male is a warrior monk.
The Code Of The Samurai And Alpha Males
If you have no idea how to live by a code then learn and copy the ancient Samurai warriors of Japan.
Samurai warriors have long been admired for their characteristics of unyielding honor, courage, and loyalty.
To guide samurai actions and behavior while they served their lords and samurai families, there was the samurai code, or “Bushido”, which included the principles of Righteousness, Loyalty, Honor, Respect, Honesty, Courage, and Consistency above all else.
In samurai codes of conduct, adhering to these virtues was of the highest priority when making any decision.
Samurai warriors had intense loyalty as well as unwavering determination to move forward in accordance with Bushido's expectations no matter what obstacles stood in their way.
Samurai warriors were the ultimate Alpha Males.
A lot of people try to make a change in life but soon, they find themselves in a place where everything they created is lost, and they are exactly back where they started.
The reason for the circle of chaos is that most dont realize the importance of one of the most powerful principles in the known universe.
This principle has created and upheld civilizations since the beginning of the human story.
This principle is maintenance.
Zen Maintenance is the key to long-term success.
If you dont maintain the standards you set for yourself in any area of life, then I guarantee you that you will lose it all.
Maintenance in all areas of life must become a culture.
It's the culture of excellence of the modern Alpha.
Maintenance is an act of striving for continued success and progress.
It involves carefully evaluating one’s current habits and strategies, as well as investing time and effort in honing existing abilities.
Without maintenance, it is hard to imagine why success would occur over extended periods of time.
After all, commitment toward the maintenance of habits such as hard work is an integral component necessary for the maintenance of success.
Thus the power of maintenance should never be underestimated; it is just as critical a factor for success as ambition or talent.
For Alpha men maintenance is part of who they are.
Dating Women And Relationships
The reality for you as a man is that women will play a big part in your life.
The quistion is how much of that influence will be positive and how much will be negative?
Here is the reality for most men:
The influence of women in their lives causes them to lose all their power.
And therefore, the influence mostly leads to unhappiness and, a lot of times, chaos.
All you need to do to see this is look at the modern divorce rate, and you will see that most men are clueless when it comes to women, they have no idea what they are doing.
A man with an Alpha mindset understands women and understands that if he doesn't make smart decisions with women that his whole life could be turned into chaos.
Being a high-value man is about taking ownership of your masculinity and understanding its true meaning.
Society often tries to push misconceptions about what it means to be “masculine”, but this message doesn't serve anyone in any way – not men, women or society as a whole.
The reality is that true masculinity demands that you build yourself up from the inside out so you can reach true masculine success – where others admire and respect who you have become.
With increased levels of internal strength comes an unwritten law: The higher your value, the lesser rules apply to you.
Women will want you while men will aspire to be you.
The Reality For Most Men You Must Understand.
Men have been used and abused for too long.
Corporations take advantage of their loyalty, offering a job that will most likely be terminated a few years later when they find someone cheaper to do the job.
A lot of women use men as a means to an end, allowing themselves financial security while making the man slave away without letting him realize his own value.
Therefore most modern men get trapped in an endless cycle with no chance at a better life or going after their dreams becuase even if they wanted to get out, they must overcome modern divorce.
And modern divorce courts have no mercy on men. The chances are you might lose most of your assets and walk out with nothing.
Society's narrative only furthers this idea of male servitude without any hope for escape from its clutches.
It seems that society has normalized using men before discarding them like yesterday's trash once there is nothing left to obtain from them anymore.
I get it, not all relationships are this bad, but many end up in a nightmare.
All you have to do is go and spend a few hours in a divorce court and see how men get destroyed.
Now my point is not to scare you away from women or make you hate women.
In fact, I love women, but I understand their true nature and also realize that a lot of women in the modern world are not a good fit for you and that you need tools so that you can make the best possible choices for your life and happiness.
Therefore you must realize we live in a modern world with different rules and you better know them if you want to elevate yourself above them.
If You Feel Stuck, There Is A Way Out.
Stuck in a life of mediocrity?
The answer lies within the top 20% – those who have attained wealth, remain desirable to women and live without limits.
So instead of languishing in self-pity, it's time you make moves towards joining them; they skyrocketed their way up there, why shouldn't you be able to do the same?
And it all starts with your mindset.
You must adopt the mindset of an Apha Male and take control of your life and long-term success.
So the starting point for the Alpha is to learn about the true nature of women, then he must learn to become a master with women.
Next, he must become a very good decision-maker in dating and relationships.
Finally, the Alpha knows the most important lesson of all.:
A woman is not the most important thing in your life. Your mission is number one.
Men who believe women are nothing more than “mysterious creatures” often end up with disappointing results with women and dating.
You must realize that what society has told you about women and dating is mostly false.
The truth about women is probably not what you want it to be, but it will give you the power to understand and overcome all the problems most men struggle with.
Do your homework on true female nature before engaging them. You can have a successful dating and relationship life if you are willing to do the work.
Everyone knows the importance of success in life, but many people underestimate just how much social dynamics play into it.
“Playing the game' correctly can mean all the difference between succeeding or failing at relationships and work.
Understanding social dynamics could mean getting that promotion from your boss with less effort than others, obtaining better payment terms on a sale by knowing when to speak up as well as not overplaying your hand, diffusing arguments that could get out of control if you don't know exactly what to say.
All these scenarios depend greatly upon understanding turnkey principles behind basic social dynamics.This includes things like body language, tone of voice, eye contact, etc.
You must do the work to understand the basics of social dynamics, so they work for you and not against you!
The Danger Of Becoming An Alpha-Beta
Finally, a word of warning.
I know many men who start as Alpha or they develop into Alphas but then lose it all.
Why do they lose it all?
Well, they give into the seductive power of beautiful women.
They forget what they have learned, they dont have the inner strength to say no to women.
A big reason for this is that many men develop into Alphas to get the girl.
But then, when they become an Alpha male, they the first time in their lives get attention from a high-value beautiful woman (9 0r 10's).
And suddenly, the power of her beauty is too much for them to handle, so they become alpha betas.
And when you see them in a few years, they are back to being full-time beta males in a position where they can lose it all just because they gave in to their own weakness.
So you must be conscious of the fact that you could slip back into being a beta male and you must resist it at all costs.
You must realize that being alpha means you will be tested.
This is the world Alpha Males live in.
You will be tested by the world.
And as an alpha, you must stand strong like a mountain and let the ocean go around you.
Do not under any circumstances let the ocean consume you.
Do not go into the world of the beta male.
So these were my abstract ideas of being a Modern Alpha Male.
Being a modern Alpha Male is an ideal.
It's something to look up to and tell yourself to always be getting better.
To always be growing and improving and, more importantly, maintaining it all so that you can leave a legacy.
Until next time