Dating Korean Girls in South Korea is a popular topic these days since Korea has become more mainstream. I lived in South Korea for several years in my twenties.
I get asked a lot about my experience in Korea and specifically about dating in South Korea. More specifically guys ask me about Korean women dating foreign guys.
This post like all my blog posts about women and dating is focused on beautiful, high-quality women. If that is your thing then keep on reading.
This article will also be helpful for guys not in Korea but who want to date Korean women in their countries. This article will give you a better understanding of Korean women.
I dated many Korean women and women from other Asian countries like Japan, Thailand, and China. In my opinion, Korean women are the most attractive in Asia. It's a combination of natural beauty, great bodies, fashion, style, cuteness, and femininity.
Add to that Korean woman are very warm and family orientated so they are great for long-term relationships if that's what you are looking for.
Korean women in my experience are very open and aim to please once you have shown that you are into her.
If you show her that you really like her she will go out of her way to make you happy. When you are sick she will make sure no stone is left unturned to make sure you are feeling better. She will cook, give you a massage and spoil you if you make her feel special.
The other side of the coin is that women in Korea are not easy to date for most foreigners when they get here the first time. The reason for this is mostly because guys think dating women in Korea will be the same as their home country and that is simply not the case.
Sure, you might get lucky in a nightclub one night with a random drunk girl who you probably don't want to see again. But if you want to date high-quality Korean Women you want to spend time with then you need to adapt to the reality in Korea.
If you want to have success with dating Korean women then you need to learn how Korean women approach dating foreigners, their mindsets, culture and the different types of Korean Women.
Things To Keep In Mind When Dating Korean Girls:
(1)The Group is more important than the individual.
In Korea the harmony of the group is very important, the individual comes second. When interacting with Korean women and her friends and/or family, remember that this is important to her even if it seems not important for you.
You will notice very soon that Koreans like to socialize and have drinks in groups. It's very rare to see someone sit alone at a bar like you do in the west. Most things are done in groups. When they go out eating they share the dishes on the table. So there is an underlying group mentality in everything.
(2)She Works Hard.
Koreans have an extreme work ethic and this is reflected in their school system where high school students finish their day at around 10 pm.They work hard their whole life to get ahead in a highly competitive environment.
Most Koreans are university educated. They take their jobs extremely seriously and if they work for a big company they will prioritize their responsibility for the company.
You might think this has nothing to do with you but this will give an understanding of why some women act the way they do. This will also give you an understanding that you have to bring value into her life.
(3)Appearances Matter (a lot.)
When I say appearances matter a lot, I mean it is on a whole different level in Korea. Koreans like beautiful things and they are not ashamed of their admiration for things that look good. This goes for everything from food, fashion, and people. They are very open about this.
It's not strange to see Korean girls staring at themselves with their phone cameras or mirrors. There are even big mirrors in most Subway stations so people can stop and make sure they look good.
First impressions matter a lot for Koreans. So when you meet someone the first time your appearance will matter a lot. So you have to make sure you are dressed well when you approach Korean women and make sure you are well groomed.
Most beautiful Korean women will not waste their time with a badly dressed man. So take care of your style. Also get in shape and take care of your body. You don't have to look like a movie star but get in reasonable shape.
Don't get a negative attitude because looks matter so much. This is just the way it is. Some guys have it reasonably easy because of their status and looks. If you are attractive and wealthy then there are a certain type of Korean women that will be all over you.
The good news is that many Korean women are into foreign guys with a lot of potential and guys who work hard on their appearance even if they don't look like a movie star.
Again you can still have a lot of dating success in Korea without being a millionaire or without natural good looks, however, you will have to put in some work with your style, looks, and grooming. So get in the gym, buy a few items of cool clothing and make sure you are well groomed.
(I'm writing this article for guys who want to date 8,9 and 10's in terms of an attraction level from 1-10. If you are OK with dating 6 and 7's then it might be easier for you to meet women using a different approach,but even with those women, these guidelines will be helpful in Korea.)
(4)Culture and Social Rules Are Important
In Korea, they have many social rules and norms that they follow to keep the harmony in the groups and society as a whole. You will see a lot of bowing and politeness. There is a hierarchy based on age and status.
There are social rules on how you act in public, for example, on the public transport and how you treat your elders and people in senior positions. If you want to make an impression on her then make sure you respect these rules even if you don't agree with them.
(5)Pick Up Artist Approaches Must Be Used With Caution When Dating in South Korea.
The dating approaches used by popular dating schools or pickup artists should be used with caution. My opinion about pick up techniques is that they are a cool skill to have and something to have fun with if you have a solid mindset. If you haven't done any mindset work on yourself in terms of personal development, then these techniques are like an amateur pretending to be a pro football player, in other words, you are going to get exposed.
In terms of using these techniques or methods in Korea, I will say that it's risky. You might mess it up because a lot of the Social Dynamics methods get lost in translation.
A lot of Korean girls speak good English but not so good that they understand you 100% all the time. This means she might not totally get your humor or joke. She might take it personally and think you are being rude.
This is especially true when you first meet someone and she doesn't know your personality or humor. Remeber this is not the west, things are different in Korea and Asia in general.
So my advice is to use your dating methods as a guideline but don't depend on them for success with dating Korean Women. Culture and language are 2 barriers you need to get through and over the top theatrics might be funny but will scare and intimidate many Korean Women.
I know there are different pickup methods and some are better than others but again, mindset, confidence, and politeness will take you a long way in Korea.
Types Of Korean Women:
In Korea, there are generally 3 types of Korean women.
(1)The Women That Will Never Date a Foreign Guy.
The first type of women will never date a foreign guy. This is just the way it is and you can't change it. Remeber Korea is one of the most homogeneous countries in the world. So for many women, they just don't want the hassle of dating a foreigner.
There are many other reasons for this. For example, they don't want to be criticized by friends or family or even strangers. Korea is conservative to outsiders so sometimes you will get some stairs and remarks, especially from Korean Men.
Many Korean girls can't speak English and don't want to learn so that is another reason why they don't date foreigners. The obvious reason is many just prefer to date Koreans.
(2)The Women That Wants to Date Foreign Men
The women that want to date a foreign guy. You will see that in Korea just being a foreigner make you the center of attention a lot the time. People will sometimes openly stare at you or look in your shopping basket in supermarkets to see what the foreigner is buying. Koreans are very curious about foreigners. So when women are into foreigners then they are serious about it.
Some will even tell you they only date foreign men. This is good for you, but this doesn't mean it will be easy. You will still have to charm her and impress her with your appearance and value.
As a man you need to have a purpose in life, this is not just true in Korea, but everywhere. You need to bring value to the table as a man. If you don't see yourself as someone with a lot to offer then bring potential and a dream. Women love to see guys with a purpose and watch them go after their goals.
Within this type of Korean women that want to date foreigners are a subcategory of women that you will find in nightclubs in Seoul. Some Korean women have a thing for black guys, or white guys or Korean American guys.
In certain areas in Seoul that I will talk about later, you can meet women that are into just having the experience of a foreigner and not date the foreigner. Of course, this is fun if you want nothing long term.
(3)The Women That Are On The Fence
Then there is the type of Korean Women that are on the fence. She is not sure about dating foreigners. This type of women have not been exposed to many foreigners but is open to the idea of dating foreigners.
This means you will have to play this one with a lot more patience and understanding. She might be a lot more cautious and reserved, but if you do things right then you will be surprised how much she will open up to you.
Something To Keep In Mind.
Korean Guys are famous in Asia for being cockblockers. When you are in a place like a bar or a nightclub you might get resistance from Korean Guys. They might try to lead the girl away or pretend to be her friend. This is just the way it is in Korea, especially in a group guys will be very protective or jealous.
Just be aware of this and don't back off thinking it's her boyfriend. I had an experience in a bar once where a total stranger pretended to be her friend and tried to block me. She told me later she doesn't know the guy. So just be aware of the fact that you might have to deal with this type of scenario.
Where To Meet Korean Women In Seoul.
Seoul is a massive city with a population of 10 million. So meeting women is easy but the type of women you want to meet will be slightly easier in the following areas:
Itaewon is an area in Seoul known for its cosmopolitan nightlife, with Korean BBQ restaurants, and bistros, as well as low-key kebab shops. Itaewon is the one place in Seoul where there is something going on 24 hours a day. Itaweon has traditionally been the foreigner area in Seoul. You will find people from all over Asia and the world in Itaewon.
I mentioned earlier that some type of women wants to meet foreign guys to have an experience with a specific type of foreigner, Itaewon is that area. Itaewon has loads of clubs and bars to choose from.
The famous spot in Itaewon for cute Korean Girls who are into foreign guys is Helios Bar. Also, try out Boombar wich a cool Lounge Bar with a lot of beautiful Korean women dancing the night away.
Hongdae is home to the Hongik University famous for its Arts Faculty. Hongdae is the one area in Seoul where Koreans express themselves in a unique way with fashion and appearance.
You will also see a lot of tattooed university students walking around. This also means that going out in Hongdae is an interesting experience and a good place to meet openminded Korean girls who speak English well. Hongdae is filled with restaurants, clubs, and Bars. Be sure to go to Thursday Party Bar and club NB2.
Gangnam and Apgujeong Rodeo Street
The Gangnam Area is probably going the be the hardest place for newcomers in Korea. But for guys who know how the roll in Korea, Gangnam is a great area to go out and has incredibly beautiful Korean Women.If very sexy Korean girls is something you are interested in then go down to Gangnam.
This is the area in Seoul that probably has the least foreigners out at night compared with other areas. So its very Korean and you will stand out more here especially if you go to the trendy clubs in Gangnam.
Gangnam is the area where people are most status-conscious in Seoul, so also the most pretentious area. Gangnam is famous for being the trendy and fashion conscious area in Seoul. It's no coincidence that this is the capital of plastic surgery in Korea and a place where its pleasure to walk around in as a man.
The Apgujeong Rodeo Street is famous for fashion and women walking around with the latest fashions and trends. When the sun goes down check out club Dstar and Monkey Museum Club for a high-end night out.
Other Big cities in Korea that is worth mentioning is Daejeon, Daegu, Changwon, and Busan.
Meeting Korean Women in the Day anywhere in Korea.
Korea is a great place to meet beautiful Korean girls during the daytime. Lot's of women are going shopping, going to the gym or just hanging around the thousands of coffee shops all over the country. The coffee culture in Korea is massive and you will find single women and groups of women just hanging out in the daytime. This is a great opportunity for you to introduce yourself.
Where To Meet Korean Women Online In Korea and The USA.
One of the best ways to meet women in Korea is online. I met my previous girlfriend online in Korea. Online dating in Korea is very popular and girls find it a convenient and safe option to meet foreign men.
There are many debates about the best Korean Dating Sites but for me, there is only one site that has constantly given me results and that is Korean Cupid. Korean Cupid is a website that has a monthly subscription but its totally worth the money to get into contact with Korean women who want to date foreigners.
I have found that Korean Cupid works both in Korea and in the USA and Europe.
Dating Korean women is great. If you like Asian women then Korean girls is a great choice in terms of looks, and their strong femininity. One of the big reason myself and many western men prefer dating Korean Women is because of the level of femininity that is still in these countries.
Unfortunately, this type of femininity is disappearing in western countries. So if you are a masculine man who enjoys to date this type of beautiful feminine women then go to Korea or find Korean women in your city.