Sex is one of the strongest drives a human being has. 

And sexual energy is behind most of what men do.

All your dreams and ambitions are driven by sexual energy.

When a man is healthy both physically and mentally he channels a strong stream of sexual energy and knows how to use it effectively. 

These men have a great sex life and create great things life.

Most men think that sexual energy just translates to potentially creating a family, this is not correct. 

Your sexual energy also gets channeled into the way you fuck the world.

And by fucking the world I mean the creative actions you take on this planet. 

Mantak Chia

The way a man penetrates the world should be the same way he penetrates his woman: not merely for personal gain or pleasure, but to magnify love, openness, and depth.” 

― David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man

And by creative actions, I mean the way you channel your energy to build businesses, do your job, or play sport. 

Because these things are all creative pursuits. 

So your sexual energy gets both used biologically by potentially having a baby with your wife or girlfriend. 

But it's also used to create in this world. 

Now there is a flip side to this. 

Some men don't have healthy sexual energy in them and they live unhappy miserable lives where they don't achieve much or even if they do achieve something they can't enjoy it because they don't have healthy sexual energy that they are in control of.

Or maybe you are not in either one of these extremes, maybe you just feel like you are not where you want to be in terms of your sexual health and you want to be better, have more quality sex, and create more in this world. 

Because having strong sexual energy also means having a stronger physical and mental presence in the world. 

And if you want to improve all of these aspects and ultimately have a better quality of life then this article is for you.

This article is about getting control of your sex drive. 

If you have too little then this article will help you boost, improve and control it better.

If you have too much it might help you get control over it.

The Better Sex Guide

Let's look at the key areas of sex:


The Strength Of Your Libido.

Start by asking yourself the following:

How much do you think about sex?

Or how often do you think about sex? 

This will indicate the strength of your libido.

A lot of things can play a role in a low sex drive. 

Things like medications, stress, diet, hormonal imbalances, aging, etc. But the good news is this:

When Low Sex Drive Becomes a Problem for Men

For men, having a low sex drive can be a source of significant distress.

While it’s normal to experience an occasional decrease in libido, if the issue persists for an extended period of time, it may be indicative of an underlying medical issue.

Let's examine some common symptoms of lower sex drive in men and explore the potential causes behind them.

Physical Symptoms

One of the most common physical symptoms associated with decreased libido is erectile dysfunction (ED).

ED is defined as difficulty achieving or maintaining an erection sufficient to have sexual intercourse.

This symptom can arise due to any number of factors, ranging from mental health issues such as depression and anxiety to physical health problems like diabetes, low blood pressure or heart disease.

It’s important to note that there are many effective treatments available for ED, including medications and lifestyle changes.

In addition to ED, some men may also experience premature ejaculation (PE), which is defined as ejaculating before or shortly after penetration.

PE is typically caused by psychological issues such as stress or performance anxiety but can also be caused by biological factors such as hormonal imbalances or abnormal levels of neurotransmitters in the brain.

Emotional Symptoms

In addition to physical symptoms, many men also experience emotional symptoms when dealing with a lowered sex drive.

These symptoms can include feelings of guilt, shame, incompetence, embarrassment, and frustration.

Additionally, men may also feel disconnected from their partners due to their perceived lack of desire and arousal.

Unfortunately these feelings can become compounded over time if they are not addressed properly or if left untreated altogether.

Lowered libido can cause significant distress both emotionally and physically for men who are experiencing it long-term.

If you have been feeling unusually low levels of desire lately, speak with your doctor about possible causes and treatment options so that you can take steps towards restoring your sex life back to normalcy again.

With proper diagnosis and treatment plan tailored specifically for you and your situation, you will soon find yourself feeling like your old self once more!

If you follow the advice in this article you will not only have better sex but will also get your sexual drive back for more sex and also more achievement in your day-to-day life.

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Don't Focus on Finishing, Focus on Fun.

The way most men go about sex is getting to the end ,they just follow the feeling in their genitals and this leads to quick and below-average sex. 

Yes, I get it, it's sometimes fun to have quick sex in a special situation, but as a habit having sex quickly with an orgasm as a goal ,will lead to problems pleasing your partner and also lead to sex getting boring.

It also leads to a lot of men creating sexual problems for themselves because they can't please their partners. 

They start getting performance anxiety becuase they cant give an orgasm to their partners. 

This leads to low self-confidence and a lot of times leads to failed relationships.

Let's begin by saying this: you have to be very attracted to your girlfriend or wife to have good sex. 

If you are not then you have serious problems that I'm not going to discuss in this article.But maybe look into strengthening your pelvic floor muscles or kegel exercises.

But let's get back to the problem of men not being able to enjoy sex and please their women. 

First, forget about the goal of having an orgasm.

And yes I get it, for many men this statement might sound counterintuitive or even crazy for some people. 

But remember, the best knowledge is usually found in places you didn't think to look.

When you stop thinking about your orgasm the energy immediately shifts from yourself to being with your partner. 

This will lead to more oxytocin being released in your blood and you start enjoying the experience more. 

She will feel your presence more if stop thinking about what you are supposed to do and just feeling what is right by flowing in the moment and stop thinking so much. 

Remember to breathe instead of tensing up in the experience. 

When you feel like you want to go over the edge, slow down, and breathe, instead of just focusing on your genitals. 

So breath, and focus on her, not your dick. 

This will lead to longer and more enjoyable sex. 

And ultimately this will lead to more intense orgasms for both. 

And with practice, you will get more control over when you want to orgasm and this will build a lot more self-confidence with sex and life in general.

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Stop Watching Porn.

There are a lot of different opinions on porn, but the bottom line is that the more porn there is in society the more dating and relationship problems we create. 

Doesn't matter what your moral view is about porn the bottom line is this:

Its not good for your sex life or your relationship.

Porn gives you a dopamine overdose and soon you are addicted to getting that fix of dopamine.

That in itself is not the end of the world, but what does it lead to? 

It leads men to start living in a virtual world instead of a real world.

They start finding pornstars as their only acceptable standard of attraction. 

The freakier the better for them, and soon just being freaky is not enough.

They go down a rabbit hole of weird sex with virtual women that only exists in their minds.

The negative impact of this is big and is still not fully understood. 

The more porn you watch the more stimulation you need for real-life attraction. 

This leads to a lot of men not being able to get hard for their girlfriend or wife.

A lot of men are addicted to porn and don't even know it.

If you dont think you are addicted then try and stop for a month, better yet, try and stop for 2 weeks. 

Most won't even stop for just 2 weeks. 

This is the massive scale of the problem we face.

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At Certain Times, Have Fewer Orgasms To Get More Done.

Now before you say I'm crazy hear me out.

I'm not saying don't orgasm, but you will find a lot of drive and focus if you don't orgasm as often. 

If I'm working on big projects or have a deadline to meet I intentionally orgasm less. 

I still have sex, but I dont orgasm. 

And yes this discipline is not easy, but it's possible with focus and self-discipline. 

Especially if you follow the advice in the first point in this article. 



Remember I talked about forgetting about the outcome and focusing on the moment.

Now when you go through a period of semen retention you focus on just enjoying the process and stopping before ejaculation. 

The ancient Taoist masters discover the power of semen retention a long time ago and learned how to use sexual energy to improve their lives.

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“Sex essence is the source of all energy available for creative and thinking processes (shien).” 

― Mantak Chia, Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy

 As mentioned earlier all energy is sexual energy.

It's dynamic. 

When you orgasm less you will raise your testosterone levels and your drive for life will increase. 

Another interesting thing is that women will notice you more if you are a loaded gun. 

Women notice it with your body language but more importantly, they smell you. 

When you are locked and loaded(no ejaculation for at least 7 days) you will give off a different body scent and women will notice. 

I previously wrote an article about women and smell and the strength of a woman's smell ability. 

Remember there are a lot of things we can't see that make a big difference in your quality of life.

So a good starting point for ejaculating less is no fapping. 

In other words, top masturbating so much. 

Sex is a lot better than fapping anyway. 

To reduce or quit fapping to start with this process of channeling your sexual energy better. 

So if you want to get a lot done quickly or long term then go Monk Mode for period of time if needed.



In that time you will channel your sexual energy through your work and not through your balls. 

To get through the cravings for orgasm try breathing exercises or martial arts to blow off steam. 

But more importantly, fuck the world with your actions and build something great in your life.

Have More Sex.

When you have used your sexual energy to create something great in your life, shift your energy to having sex as much as possible. 

Once you get to the point where you have created a standard of excellence in your life then shift to sex as much as possible. 

If you are dating or in a relationship, have sex and lots of it.

The benefits of sex are massive.

The obvious benefits are:

  • Better mood
  • Healthy heart
  • More Intimacy
  • Brain health
  • Improvement of Mindset

    The Art Of Seduction

    The reality of having more sex is that you must meet more women.

    If you are already in a relationship then use your seduction skills to strengthen your relationship.

    For men who want to meet more women and have more fulfilling sexual experiences, learning the art of seduction is crucial. 

    Seduction involves understanding the psychology of attraction and mastering communication skills that convey confidence, humor, and charisma. 

    It's not just about “pickup lines”; seduction is about becoming a more attractive and desirable person overall. 

    When men apply seduction techniques effectively, they can create more opportunities for meaningful interactions and connections. 

    They can also experience better, more satisfying sex by building trust, intimacy, and excitement with their partners. 

    Ultimately, learning seduction is a powerful tool that allows men to enhance their relationships, boost their confidence, and enjoy more fulfilling sexual experiences.

    Yes,you must learn game.


Supplements For Sex Drive.

Obviously, you need to lift weights, eat healthy and get fit for better testosterone levels. 

But there could be some vitamins and minerals that you lack that are causing you to have below-average sex. So we need to optimise your biology by giving it the best supplements possible specifically for a better sex life:

  • Maca

Maca is a root that is found in the Mountains of Peru. 

And the people of Peru have used this powerful plant for thousands of years for all its health benefits. 

One of the greatest benefits is improving your sex life. 

Maca is a powerful aphrodisiac. 

A lot of men get Maca and unfortunately don't get the benefits from the magical plant because there is one key thing to remember when buying Maca: 

Always get gelatinized or cooked Maca.

This is the only way to get the full benefits of the plant.

Maca can be used daily, but take an extra dose before sex.

  • Tribulus Terrestris 

Tribulus Terrestris is a powerful aphrodisiac that should be added if Maca is not enough. 

Only Take it about an hour before sex.

Other supplements that should be foundational for a healthy man but are also important for sex are the following:


-Vitamin D

-Vitamin K2

-Vitamin A


-Horny Goat Weed


Remember supplements are great but they will not replace a healthy diet and lifestyle. 

So eat real food and avoid procced food. 

Avoid soy as much as possible, also lift weights, and meditate as a lifestyle.(Remember soy is the enemy of testosterone)

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Before you start taking action with improving your sex life ask yourself this: 

Where am I in terms of sexual health and libido?

Answer those questions honestly and then get to work improving and changing them will lead to a better sex life.

A good idea is to go for a screening and test your blood.They will check your testosterone levels and general health ,and then you take it from there.

Until next time…. 

Book Resources:

The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know. -Mantak Chia

 The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire. -David Deida