Sex is one of the strongest drives a human being has. 

And sexual energy is behind most of what men do.

All your dreams and ambitions are driven by sexual energy.

When a man is healthy both physically and mentally he channels a strong stream of sexual energy and knows how to use it effectively. 

These men have a great sex life and create great things life.

Most men think that sexual energy just translates to potentially creating a family, this is not correct. 

Your sexual energy also gets channeled into the way you fuck the world.

And by fucking the world I mean the creative actions you take on this planet. 

Mantak Chia

“The way a man penetrates the world should be the same way he penetrates his woman: not merely for personal gain or pleasure, but to magnify love, openness, and depth.” 

― David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man

And by creative actions, I mean the way you channel your energy to build businesses, do your job, or play sport. 

Because these things are all creative pursuits. 

So your sexual energy gets both used biologically by potentially having a baby with your wife or girlfriend. 

But it's also used to create in this world. 

Now there is a flip side to this. 

Some men don't have healthy sexual energy in them and they live unhappy miserable lives where they don't achieve much or even if they do achieve something they can't enjoy it because they don't have healthy sexual energy that they are in control of.

Or maybe you are not in either one of these extremes, maybe you just feel like you are not where you want to be in terms of your sexual health and you want to be better, have more quality sex, and create more in this world. 

Because having strong sexual energy also means having a stronger physical and mental presence in the world. 

And if you want to improve all of these aspects and ultimately have a better quality of life then this article is for you.

This article is about getting control of your sex drive. 

If you have too little then this article will help you boost, improve and control it better.

If you have too much it might help you get control over it.

The Better Sex Guide

Let's look at the key areas of sex:

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The Strength Of Your Libido.

Start by asking yourself the following:

How much do you think about sex?

Or how often do you think about sex? 

This will indicate the strength of your libido.

A lot of things can play a role in a low sex drive. 

Things like medications, stress, diet, hormonal imbalances, aging, etc. But the good news is this:

If you follow the advice in this article you will not only have better sex but will also get your sexual drive back for more sex and also more achievement in your day-to-day life.

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Don't Focus on Finishing, Focus on Fun.

The way most men go about sex is getting to the end ,they just follow the feeling in their genitals and this leads to quick and below-average sex. 

Yes, I get it, it's sometimes fun to have quick sex in a special situation, but as a habit having sex quickly with an orgasm as a goal ,will lead to problems pleasing your partner and also lead to sex getting boring.

It also leads to a lot of men creating sexual problems for themselves because they can't please their partners. 

They start getting performance anxiety becuase they cant give an orgasm to their partners. 

This leads to low self-confidence and a lot of times leads to failed relationships.

Let's begin by saying this: you have to be very attracted to your girlfriend or wife to have good sex. 

If you are not then you have serious problems that I'm not going to discuss in this article.

But let's get back to the problem of men not being able to enjoy sex and please their women. 

First, forget about the goal of having an orgasm.

And yes I get it, for many men this statement might sound counterintuitive or even crazy for some people. 

But remember, the best knowledge is usually found in places you didn't think to look.

When you stop thinking about your orgasm the energy immediately shifts from yourself to being with your partner. 

This will lead to more oxytocin being released in your blood and you start enjoying the experience more. 

She will feel your presence more if stop thinking about what you are supposed to do and just feeling what is right by flowing in the moment and stop thinking so much. 

Remember to breathe instead of tensing up in the experience. 

When you feel like you want to go over the edge, slow down, and breathe, instead of just focusing on your genitals. 

So breath, and focus on her, not your dick. 

This will lead to longer and more enjoyable sex. 

And ultimately this will lead to more intense orgasms for both. 

And with practice, you will get more control over when you want to orgasm and this will build a lot more self-confidence with sex and life in general.

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Stop Watching Porn.

There are a lot of different opinions on porn, but the bottom line is that the more porn there is in society the more dating and relationship problems we create. 

Doesn't matter what your moral view is about porn the bottom line is this:

Its not good for your sex life or your relationship.

Porn gives you a dopamine overdose and soon you are addicted to getting that fix of dopamine.

That in itself is not the end of the world, but what does it lead to? 

It leads men to start living in a virtual world instead of a real world.

They start finding pornstars as their only acceptable standard of attraction. 

The freakier the better for them, and soon just being freaky is not enough.

They go down a rabbit hole of weird sex with virtual women that only exists in their minds.

The negative impact of this is big and is still not fully understood. 

The more porn you watch the more stimulation you need for real-life attraction. 

This leads to a lot of men not being able to get hard for their girlfriend or wife.

A lot of men are addicted to porn and don't even know it.

If you dont think you are addicted then try and stop for a month, better yet, try and stop for 2 weeks. 

Most won't even stop for just 2 weeks. 

This is the massive scale of the problem we face.

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At Certain Times, Have Fewer Orgasms To Get More Done.

Now before you say I'm crazy hear me out.

I'm not saying don't orgasm, but you will find a lot of drive and focus if you don't orgasm as often. 

If I'm working on big projects or have a deadline to meet I intentionally orgasm less. 

I still have sex, but I dont orgasm. 

And yes this discipline is not easy, but it's possible with focus and self-discipline. 

Especially if you follow the advice in the first point in this article. 

“FORTUNATE, INDEED, IS THE PERSON WHO HAS DISCOVERED HOW TO GIVE SEX EMOTION AN OUTLET THROUGH SOME FORM OF CREATIVE EFFORT, FOR HE HAS, BY THAT DISCOVERY, LIFTED HIMSELF TO THE STATUS OF A GENIUS.”  

~THINK AND GROW RICH,NAPOLEON HILL

Remember I talked about forgetting about the outcome and focusing on the moment.

Now when you go through a period of semen retention you focus on just enjoying the process and stopping before ejaculation. 

The ancient Taoist masters discover the power of semen retention a long time ago and learned how to use sexual energy to improve their lives.

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“Sex essence is the source of all energy available for creative and thinking processes (shien).” 

― Mantak Chia, Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy

 As mentioned earlier all energy is sexual energy.

It's dynamic. 

When you orgasm less you will raise your testosterone levels and your drive for life will increase. 

Another interesting thing is that women will notice you more if you are a loaded gun. 

Women notice it with your body language but more importantly, they smell you. 

When you are locked and loaded(no ejaculation for at least 7 days) you will give off a different body scent and women will notice. 

I previously wrote an article about women and smell and the strength of a woman's smell ability. 

Remember there are a lot of things we can't see that make a big difference in your quality of life.

So a good starting point for ejaculating less is no fapping. 

In other words, top masturbating so much. 

Sex is a lot better than fapping anyway. 

To reduce or quit fapping to start with this process of channeling your sexual energy better. 

So if you want to get a lot done quickly or long term then go Monk Mode for period of time if needed.

“THE EMOTION OF SEX CONTAINS THE SECRET OF CREATIVE ABILITY.WHEN HARNESSED, AND REDIRECTED ALONG OTHER LINES, THIS MOTIVATING FORCE MAINTAINS ALL OF ITS ATTRIBUTES OF KEENNESS OF IMAGINATION, COURAGE, ETC., WHICH MAY BE USED AS POWERFUL CREATIVE FORCES IN LITERATURE, ART, OR IN ANY OTHER PROFESSION OR CALLING, INCLUDING, OF COURSE, THE ACCUMULATION OF RICHES.”

~THINK AND GROW RICH ,NAPOLEON HILL

In that time you will channel your sexual energy through your work and not through your balls. 

To get through the cravings for orgasm try breathing exercises or martial arts to blow off steam. 

But more importantly, fuck the world with your actions and build something great in your life.

Have More Sex.

When you have used your sexual energy to create something great in your life, shift your energy to having sex as much as possible. 

Once you get to the point where you have created a standard of excellence in your life then shift to sex as much as possible. 

If you are dating or in a relationship, have sex and lots of it.

The benefits of sex are massive.

The obvious benefits are:

  • Better mood
  • Healthy heart
  • More Intimacy
  • Brain health
  • Improvement of Mindset

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Supplements For Sex Drive.

Obviously, you need to lift weights, eat healthy and get fit for better testosterone levels. 

But there could be some vitamins and minerals that you lack that are causing you to have below-average sex. So we need to optimise your biology by giving it the best supplements possible specifically for a better sex life:

  • Maca

Maca is a root that is found in the Mountains of Peru. 

And the people of Peru have used this powerful plant for thousands of years for all its health benefits. 

One of the greatest benefits is improving your sex life. 

Maca is a powerful aphrodisiac. 

A lot of men get Maca and unfortunately don't get the benefits from the magical plant because there is one key thing to remember when buying Maca: 

Always get gelatinized or cooked Maca.

This is the only way to get the full benefits of the plant.

Maca can be used daily, but take an extra dose before sex.

  • Tribulus Terrestris 

Tribulus Terrestris is a powerful aphrodisiac that should be added if Maca is not enough. 

Only Take it about an hour before sex.

Other supplements that should be foundational for a healthy man but are also important for sex are the following:

-L-tyrosine

-Vitamin D

-Vitamin K2

-Vitamin A

-Zink

Remember supplements are great but they will not replace a healthy diet and lifestyle. 

So eat real food and avoid procced food. 

Avoid soy as much as possible, also lift weights, and meditate as a lifestyle.

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Conclusion

Before you start taking action with improving your sex life ask yourself this: 

Where am I in terms of sexual health and libido?

Answer those questions honestly and then get to work improving and changing them.

A good idea is to go for a screening and test your blood.They will check your testosterone levels and general health ,and then you take it from there.

Until next time…. 

Book Resources:

The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know. -Mantak Chia

 The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire. -David Deida